Happier with Gretchen Rubin

I don’t remember exactly how but two months ago I discovered the American author Gretchen Rubin. Now I can’t stop listening to her audiobooks and reading her posts on Linkedin. After listening to her latest book Better than before, I bought Happier at Home and I can’t wait to read The Happiness Project.

I find Gretchen Rubin a great writer but above all I think she is a wonderful woman.

Below you can find some of her quotes I feel to share with you:

HAPPINESS

Happiness is a critical factor for work, and work is a critical factor for happiness. In one of those life-isn’t-fair results, it turns out that the happy outperform the less happy.

One major challenge within happiness is loneliness. The more I’ve learned about happiness, the more I’ve come to believe that loneliness is a terrible, common, and important obstacle to consider.

Although we often assume that feelings inspire actions, in fact, actions also inspire feelings. By pushing myself to act happier, I make myself feel happier.

HABITS

Better than before - Gretchen Rubin
Better than before – Gretchen Rubin

“People are powerfully moved by imagination, belief, and knowledge. They can consider the past and future. They can make changes in their behavior out of reason in a way that animals can’t do”.

“Habit allows us to go from ‘before’ to ‘after,’ to make life easier and better. Habit is notorious – and rightly so – for its ability to direct our actions, even against our will; but by mindfully shaping our habits, we can harness the power of mindlessness as a sweeping force for serenity, energy, and growth”.

“We can use decision-making to choose the habits we want to form, use willpower to get the habit started, then – and this is the best part – we can allow the extraordinary power of habit to take over. At that point, we’re free from the need to decide and the need to use willpower”.

“Give warm greetings and farewells. I was surprised by how much this resolution changed the atmosphere of my home”.

GENERAL ADVICES

“If you’re impatient while waiting for the bus, tell yourself you’re doing ‘Bus waiting meditation.’ If you’re standing in a slow line at the drugstore, you’re doing ‘Waiting in line meditation.’ Just saying these words makes me feel very spiritual and high-minded and wise”.

“Turn off your email; turn off your phone; disconnect from the Internet; figure out a way to set limits so you can concentrate when you need to, and disengage when you need to. Technology is a good servant but a bad master”.

“The days are long, but the years are short”.

Don’t be afraid to say “Not with me!”

What I learned in 2015 is not being afraid to dissociate myself from something I was not agreeing with. It could seem simple written like that, but in reality it’s not.

It has a lot to do with the image you have of what you are doing and of what you are part of. In some way it has also to do with your own dreams and goals. If you can not identify yourself with your current situation in a certain area of your life and you can not imagine to continue living like that in the near future, you have to change something. But taking the decision to change radically an aspect of your life requires courage and determination.

This year I had the courage to take such a decision. I said “Not with me” and it was so simple. I felt better after that: I was smiling again. I’m still facing the consequences of it and I had days where I wasn’t sure that I took the right decision, but in the end I know it was the right thing to do: there was not another way out.

I’m doing much better now, I’m happy with what I have and I feel grateful that I found the courage to stand up and leave when the rules of the game I was playing didn’t match with my own principles.

Don’t be afraid to say that you don’t agree with something and overall don’t be afraid to quit it. Be open to what comes next and trust your instinct: everything will be good. Stay focused and work on yourself, the sun rises every morning.

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Hal Elrod

Listening to the audio book ‘The miracle morning‘ was for me an interesting experience that changed my attitude with time and practice. That’s why I would like to introduce you to its author, Hal Elrod, and suggest you to watch this speech of him. Maybe you could do it during one of the next few days off. It’s really worth!

Source: Youtube Channel of LawlineCLE

 

Ecological success

“The tallest oak in the forest is the tallest not just because it grew from the hardiest acorn; it is the tallest also because no other trees blocked its sunlight, the soil around was deep and rich, no rabbit chewes through its bark as a sapling, and no lumberjack cut it down before it matured”. Malcom Gladwell, Outliers

If that would be me?

Would somebody care?

I mean, would somebody take care of me or care about me if I would be suffering from Ebola? Or if I, Angela, would have a disability that affects my life so much that I could not be independent? And if I Fradegradi A. could not follow my passions? If I could not show love to the people I love more than myself? Would somebody care if I would hate myself? And if I should leave my family, friends and land to live in a safer place like the Palestinians are doing? And if I would be aggressive without reasons?

Would somebody come to me and ask me why?

The answer is YES. And the answer will be the same if I ask you would somebody talk about it?!

Now just one more question comes to my mind: would somebody defend me? YES, too.

Why? Well that’s a good question, here my answer.

Because I would and I’m just a person like you. We are people. We all have a brain, we are made of water and muscle, we have blood and, last but not least, we have a heart.

One person and the people make difference.

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